Anxiety

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"I should just let this go..." "If they could just do this ONE thing..."

The ways in which we are critical of ourselves often creates so much resistance and distortion in our minds. If you could just BE...

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"I feel more at peace than I ever have"

These are notes from a client who was once a VERY anxious person. "I feel so much more powerful and in my body. I feel grateful for...

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Your anxiety, patterns, and block are not who YOU are.

The PART of you that: Shuts down when you feel discouraged Spirals when your partner feels far away Is endlessly critical of yourself and...

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Self Worth

No, you’re not a People Pleaser

I can’t take another social media post about people pleasing. Why? First, why does everything need an official-ish sounding and degrading...

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Sometimes That Confused Feeling Is You Confronting a Growing Edge

The energy of this week has been funky. I’ve seen it on others and also felt it myself. Yet, somehow I just know the challenge is a sign...

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The Common Understanding of Settling is a Hot Mess

I’m regularly annoyed and sometimes even disturbed to see relationship experts and therapists posting content that recommends settling....

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"If it's Not a Full-Body 'Fuck Yes'....Maybe You're Scared."

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"If it's Not a Full-Body 'Fuck Yes'....Maybe You're Scared."

If you have a choice to make and your body is resisting by showing anxiety....you're probably scared and that doesn't automatically mean...

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In Time of Intensity Call Your Energy Back to Yourself....

Your Reminder to Take Exquisite Care of Yourself... Intimacy means that our energy may become scattered and spread out amongst our loved...

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Shame

Everything About You Makes Perfect Sense, My Darling

Everything about you makes perfect sense because of.... The way your cells were formed in your mother's womb... The nervous system you...

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I'm Difficult, a Lone Wolf, Avoidant, Protective, Perfectionist...

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I'm Difficult, a Lone Wolf, Avoidant, Protective, Perfectionist...

I'm talking about me this time. A coach called me prickly today. The big trigger. That I'm perceived as hard to understand and difficult...

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Nervous System Healing

"I just Need to Find The Right Partner, Then I'll be Happy and Everything Will Work Out"

I hear this AND OTHER SUCH EXCUSES constantly. "When the timing is right,"..."When the right match finally comes along,"...."When I find...

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Communication

If You Get Triggered By Their Venting Then You Might Actually Be The One With The Problem

Did you catch my reel about getting triggered? Maybe it’s actually pretty hard for you to listen without… ⛈ taking something personally ⛈...

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Attachment

Why do I feel bad about wanting attention?!

#1 It is human nature to desire attention and for many people there is no such thing as too much. BUT! You feel shame about wanting...

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Men

Men, now is not the time to overcorrect.

Men and people who are raising young men. Toxic shame which leads to unhealthy masculinity which leads to disassociation, trauma,...

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Giving critiques can often feel more familiar and easy than giving love

Sometimes judgement feels like the only safe way to say, “I care.” Being sincere is hard and vulnerable. Intimacy, true vulnerable...

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Remember that everyone gets nervous

Before you unravel… Remember that everyone gets nervous. I see so many clients—and my own lovers—get so lost in their own heads. You...

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Codependence

Self Sacrifice is not the thing that makes you a great partner...

Your worth is not in the things that you “do” for people, but in who you are to them by simply being your most authentic and loving self....

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We Are Not Meant to Heal Alone

I see you with your books. Trying to find the perfect juice cleanse, tapping on YouTube, swallowing up every podcast you can find. And I...

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