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About Me & FAQ
Hello, loves. I'm Veronica (aka Indelicate Coaching) and I'm a Somatic Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
I go deep into emotional experiences to help single folks and partners have better relationships and intimacy.
I help you to transform from lonely to a leader in love, from frustrated to erotic mastery, and from disconnected to fully embodied pleasure.
What is your background?
Intimacy coaching is personal to me because I've learned so much on my own road to reclaiming my pleasure and sensuality after major life transitions, breakups, burnout from a fast-paced career, chronic illness, and a herpes diagnosis. As my adult relationships grow deeper, I am also learning the extent to which I must reprogram my own nervous system and conscious and unconscious beliefs to be able to hold the sweetness, triggers, collaboration, and conflict that comes along with true partnership.
Before following my dream of becoming an anxiety whisperer and doula of the taboo, I had a 10+ year career in public service and social justice. My work is well-rounded, culturally competent, and inclusive of many lifestyles.
In addition to my degrees in Psychology with a minor in Sociology and a Masters in Public Management, I have trained with the Somatica Institute and a very humorous Universe.
I'm a Scorpio moon, cat mom, and a stone cold fox. PNW is home.
Who are your clients?
My clients are singles and partnered people who...
Want to date better and practice embodying secure attachment...
Desire deeper understanding and conscious connection....
Are ready to heal trauma, subconscious patterns, and anxiety....
Wish to unlock their inner magnetism and powerful sensuality....
Seek support as they experiment with new desires, techniques, and dynamics...
Need to reclaim their body and identity after loss, parenthood, or illness...
Struggle with emotional or physical challenges with sexuality...
(For video testimonials from real clients, go to Year Immersion and scroll down to the 'High Praise' section)
Equally comfortable with science and spirituality,
I distill complex concepts into
digestible and powerful guidance that anyone
at any experience level can understand
There are no stuffy lessons for you to process in my sessions. I’m blending all that I know about intimacy into something you can actually use right now.
You will come away from every session energized, more comfortable in your body, and with actionable feedback.
How is this different from traditional therapy?
We will do lots of talking, but less storytelling and venting than you might do in talk therapy. Storytelling keeps you in your head. If simply thinking about our problems could heal us, we'd all be fixed by now.
The boundaries of the discussions that happen in this practice are different and better suited to healing relationship dynamics because it is more personal than traditional talk therapy and more oriented to noticing things like your own heart rate, breath, and tension when you are in intimate connection. Don't worry, I will teach you this subtle art.
You will improve your relationships and enhance your capacity for pleasure by finding safety in your body, learning how your body communicates to your mind, and by growing more awareness and depth in connection. You will also find that you are less anxious and stressed in your day-to-day life.
What methods do you use?
The foundation of my work is based on the Somatica Method. I also work with principles derived from the Hakomi Method and Somatic Internal Family Systems or 'Parts Work', among others. Above all else, my practice emphasizes body-mind integration, nervous system healing, and building an authentic connection with each client.
As an aside, if you're dealing with complex trauma, anxiety, or maybe you're a classic perfectionist who has talked circles around every therapist you've ever met...maybe you haven't gotten to your desired results or have gotten referred out by lots of practitioners. I want you to know that I don't do that. My method emphasizes repair, growth, and our connection. You're not a problem to be solved, you're a person who needs to feel understood even beyond your most skillful attempts to guard yourself. Our mutual commitment to each other and the work we agree to do will bring real results.
What happens in a session?
In sessions, I will ask you questions to understand your relational history, offer radical empathy and understanding, guide you through breathing and visualization exercises, and occasionally lead you through movement and role play.
We will hold meaningful eye contact, offer courageous praise and encouragement, express desires, share appreciation, process disappointment, and actively work to build and repair our relationship as needed. We will laugh a lot and perhaps cry a little.
What does experiential mean?
Experiential means going beyond theories and advice. We make the abstract real. You will find out first hand what my clients mean when they say this work feels like magic as you learn to feel and manage emotions in the moment. You will practice real-life strategies to cope with relationship anxiety, survive conflict, and stop patterns in their tracks.
Experiential also means that I am not merely a bystander or critic. I will bring my own energy to our sessions and tell you when I feel lit up, empowered, or inspired by you and kindly redirect you when your energy feels challenging or closed off so you will know how to better give and receive love.
Do we ever meet in person?
Almost all of my sessions are online and they are highly effective and fun that way.
I occasionally arrange in-person sessions in the West Seattle area with established clients and am available for day-long intensives by request.
What if I'm already super experienced in sex and relationships? Or what if I'm Not experienced enough?
All lifestyles and cultural backgrounds are welcome here.
I have personal and professional experience with all types of relationships from vanilla to kinky, and monogamous to non-monogamous. The underlying issues for most folks are the same regardless of your outward expression.
We will always consider your unique lived experience and systemic oppression as a factor in your experience.
With me, you will work on trust, boundaries, secure attachment, resilience, subconscious patterns, how to better give and receive pleasure, and how to talk about it. I can also help with longstanding resentment, guilt, and body issues.
I like Your Feet. Can I email you to tell you about it?
Nah, bro. No thanks! That's not what this is.
***Please note that while I am an expert in relationships and sexuality, all sessions are fully clothed and that client and coach will never date or have sex and I'd really rather not receive flirty comments from strangers.***
What Coaching Packages Do You Offer?
Take a peek at the year-long Intimacy Immersion for my signature transformation or browse the pages under the drop down menu called 'Learn'. You will see that I work with both singles and partnered folks of all genders. Keep an eye out for offers and packages as they are announced by following me on social media or my email list.
What if I feel scared to spend the money or get started?
(Applies to working with me AND to relationships in general.)
Making a financial and personal leap can feel really exciting and also overwhelming at the same time.
You might be worried or experiencing doubt. That voice can be really loud sometimes. Notice the sensations in your body and take your time getting comfortable with the idea of stepping outside of your comfort zone.
You might never be all the way ready, but you're welcome to take a pause to check in with yourself before committing. Remember that something brought you here to me. Something that you've wanted for a long time. Feel how that lands in your system and go from there.
No matter what, this work will change you.
You may not be able to see it now or maybe you're holding very tightly to a specific goal and afraid that you won’t get it. I can guarantee that you will grow in my Somatic Intimacy Training and that you will level up in many aspects of your life, not just in romance. I am very skilled at balancing what you need with what you desire and will help you pursue both in a safe and methodical way.
I won't make it my job to convince you, but I welcome you to share with me what is holding you back so I can help you or make a different recommendation that is a better fit for you at this time.
Remember, you can message me with questions or go all out and try a session! I welcome you to get comfy with me before you commit.
So much love and see you soon, Veronica