Ladies, You've Been Lied To

Ladies, you’ve been lied to.

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Led to believe that you are powerless in relationships.

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You know the story.

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You’re lapping up crumbs of a relationship and asking everybody else for guidance—hitting the tarot cards, texting your therapist, venting to friends…

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Does he like me?

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You’re so confused because it feels great when you’re together but then it’s like he forgets that you exist when you’re apart.

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And I have some tough words for you.

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The problem here is NOT that he sucks. (Though he probably does.)

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The problem is that you saw the red flags a mile away and you KNOW this isn’t how you want to feel.

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But here you stand. Waiting by the phone. Waiting for him to decide what should happen in YOUR life.

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And maybe it starts to get a little embarrassing so you dig in even deeper to see if you can prove that your time has been worth it. That YOU are worth it.

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Because you can tell that he really likes you. And I bet he really does! Why the f*ck not? You’re amazing! Why else would he keep coming around?

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But that does not mean that he wants to be in a committed connection with you.

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And you know that. But you keep outsourcing your power to him anyway JUST IN CASE.

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I’m the last person to judge you because I have done this more times that I can count.

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But it’s so clear to me now, not just intellectually, but deep in my bones and coursing through my soul.

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We are too vibrant, valuable, and powerful to keep engaging in this push/pull bullsh*t.

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YOU are too special to keep doing this to yourself and I want to hold you through this transition.

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I want to watch you spew out your rage about feeling used, to honor your disappointment, and soothe the inner child that is triggering you into these loops of pain.

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I want to dance it out together and let go of this pattern FOR GOOD. If you’re ready and want this too, click the link in my bio to schedule a chat, DM me, or speak some love into the comments for all of us who’ve been down this road.