Morality, Purity Culture, Striving, and 'Good Girl' Programming That Blocks Relationship Healing and Spiritual Growth for Overachievers

I work with sensitive, intellectual, and powerful people who are trying to figure out what's so off about their relationships, or why, with all that they know, communication isn't getting any better (or hotter!) and why the HECK traditional therapy is so unsatisfying and why all of those meditation and tantra courses have not yet cracked open their wild, next-level reality.

The issue FOR ALL OF THESE FOLKS is that all of the hard work they do is great but limited to the way your striving, 'morality' programming, 'should', and shame gets projected on the teachings.

Because many programs, just like rigid interpretations of religion and school, are triggering your impulse to be 'Good', follow rules, memorize concepts, measure yourself against someone else's standard of excellence, meditate or cold plunge into a new dimension, and shame yourself when you fall short or it doesn't work. You're learning a lot, but rather than finding  aliveness and  dynamism, you're slipping into achiever mode. Oops.

By following someone else's method like a good student, performing a version of success that is not custom to you, over-identifying with labels, 'winning' the video game of therapy, repeating practices or phrases that are not actually integrating into your system as wisdom, you are locking in your patterns, not dissolving them.

Period. Across the board. Even with some of the smartest and most interesting methods and best teachers, I see it every day.

You're out there deepening perfectionism and frustration when you need access to a bigger picture that will allow you to embrace your OWN VERSION of high standards along with your passionate, soulful, messy, playful, intuitive, intelligent, inconvenient...indelicate...humanity.

I am constantly scanning for the healing and growth pitfall of contorting yourself to a framework (even if it's something that I have taught you that you have taken on as a 'should') and will simply not allow you to fall through the cracks of taking on somebody else's shape. I will always nudge you back to your soul and the True North of your life's mission and relationships...

Over and over, in fierce devotion to your becoming. Amen! Book a session and find out!