Trying to do other people's work for them
Walking on eggshells
Jumping into problem solving
Never letting anyone see me sweat or make mistakes
Not trusting that I am lovable without performing
If you grew up managing a parent’s mood or behaviors (or were raised by someone with that trauma)…
You might have learned that:
👎it’s your job to *fix* everything
👎minor inconveniences can become huge blowups
👎if you’re not perfect people might leave
👎your worth is tied up in what you *do* for people
👎it’s not safe to relax or ask for support
Y’all know I hate labels, but this realization was a big turning point toward healthier relationships for me.
I didn’t trust things to be OK unless I managed every detail of my partner’s experience.
I didn’t trust my partners. And they could feel it.
It takes practice, and I’m still working on it, but I’m not rescuing people anymore.
I’m pausing before rushing to fix things for people.
I’m taking a breath when I anticipate someone getting upset at a small thing.
I’m learning that I can trust people and situations to be OK without my immediate intervention.
I’m gaining evidence daily that the world is safer than I thought and that I am lovable without fixing or performing.
And this is what I help my high-performing, often anxious and perfectionist clients work with.
In 3 months, your mind and heart are opened…
In 6 months, you’re interrupting patterns…
In 12 months, you’re a leader in your own life.
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