I Want to be Loved; Not to Perform

I want to explore everything there is to know about sex... AND I want to be loved as I am, in my simplest, most raw form without needing to perform or impress anyone. Both are true. The truth is that this feels so tender for me.

I love to learn, to investigate. And I especially love passing along my findings to others.

But the soft animal of my body and soul yearns to know. Am I enough?

Where can I notice when my pursuits are driven more by perfectionism than by curiosity?

And how about you? Do you feel like you can show up, just as you are, enough? . Are you able to learn about sex for connection's sake and not get lost in perfectionism?

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